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I Was A Terrible Manager…

I Was A Terrible Manager…

Posted April 23rd, 2017 in Uncategorized.

Not a single person I trained or mentored during my early days as a financial planner ever successfully made it past a year with the company.

#TRUTH

I thought it was because of how difficult the industry was since there is a 95% fail rate industry wide…

It wasn’t until after several years of unsuccessfully hiring anyone at Women Evolution either that I started wondering if it was me…

Once I even tried to hire my BFF who told me after 3 months that she couldn’t work for me anymore because she wanted to make sure we remained BFFs…

She said, “You set such high expectations, are demanding and I always feel like I’m letting you down.”

Ever have a parent or a boss make you feel that way? 

The problem was that I didn’t know how to change and it was that aggressive, hustler attitude that got me as far as I had in my career in the first place.

It wasn’t until November 2014 when a good friend hosted a 2-day leadership retreat designed for female CEO’s, senior executives and business owners that I had my epiphany…

On day 2 we were tasked to create our new elevator pitch based on everything we learned, and she asked for any brave women to share their pitch with the group for feedback…

The first woman who stood up runs a graphic design agency and she bravely gave her pitch and I knew instantly what was wrong…I said immediately, “Your call to action needs to be more specific.”

Room stays silent and she says, “OK”…

Then the host of the event says, “I love when you said that you are ridiculously creative. What I would love to see more of is specific details on exactly how you serve your clients.”

The room immediately starts agreeing and saying other words of encouragement and she leaves the podium with a smile and specific feedback on how to enhance her pitch.

I sat back thinking to myself that she basically said what I just said!

Over and over again I heard her give others their feedback in the same way…

“I love when you said ________.

I would love to see more of _________.”

This simple strategy focused on what she did great first, and what she could work on second.

It was impactful, motivating, and exactly what she needed to hear to be encouraged to take her pitch to the next level.

I left that event with many AHA moments, but knowing that I want to make people feel that way stuck with me and I started implementing that concept right away…

I instantly saw the benefits…

People would walk away from our meetings feeling acknowledged for what they were doing well, but also knew exactly what they could improve.

That same month I hired a full-time executive assistant who stayed with us for 2 years before moving to another state for family reasons.

My first successful hire and all I did differently was leverage that strategy anytime I delivered any feedback!

“What I love about what you did this week was ________. What I would love for you to do more of is ________.”

It goes on and on…

I realized that up until this point, I had always been in a male-dominated working environment or building the early stages of Women Evolution as an entrepreneur trying to figure things out on my own.

In both cases, I always had male mentors showing me how to grow my businesses…

What was missing were women…

Women who could show me another way to lead that was still strong and confident while being compassionate, collaborative and empowering…

It was in this moment that Women Evolution and I were truly reborn…

With only 14% of executives being female, what this world is missing is a community of female mentors who are leading by example and sharing their stories so we can learn how to release the real leader that lives within all of us…

The type of leader we really want to be…

This philosophy of story-based learning is the foundation of every innovative and scalable mentoring solution we offer at Women Evolution.

I urge you this week to be a bit self-reflective and think about your leadership style…

  • Are you in alignment with who you want to be as a leader?
  • Are there any subtle shifts you could make when delivering feedback this week where you could easily use this approach?

I would love to hear from you so please, connect with me on LinkedIn and share your thoughts!